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Bipolar Parent
Tips
Ideas and Tips
for
Parents
Raising
Special Kids
with Bipolar
Bipolar Parent Tips
Here are some
ideas and
tips for parents
who are raising special kids with bipolar disorder.
Remember
that the
best bipolar parent tips are the ones you learn from
experience that
work - from yourself or other parents going through the same
kinds of
challenges everyday that you are. Finding other parents to
talk with
and exchange ideas really helps! Here is a link to
more information on
how to find parent support groups: Find Parent Support Groups
Share Your Experience
If you have
tips and
experiences that you would like to share
with others, please use the contact page
and tell me
about it. This
site is here to help parents raising special kids
and
the best way we
can do that is to help each other. Click here for the
contact page:Contact
Us Page
Tips for Parents for Finding a Good Doctor
Finding a doctor who "gets it" is the key. There are many
things which
you will find that you have little or no control over (like
what your
insurance will
actually pay for), but you will usually (insurance permitting
and the
crick don't rise)
will be able to choose not only your primary care physician,
but also
select among the various specialty doctors. You are hiring
them to work
for you, so be sure to interview each one until you and your child
are comfortable and you know they will provide the support
you and your
child needs.
Look for a doctor who:
- Has expertise in mood disorders, strong in
psychopharmacology (psych
drugs), and keeps up with latest research on Bipolar Disorder
- Isn’t convinced that he or she know
all the answers
- Actually
listens to you and considers you are the expert on your child
- Communicates with minimal jargon to educate
child and family,
answers questions openly, empathetic understanding of
what the family is going
through
- Is
aggressive and not afraid to initiate new medication trials to achieve
stability
- Wants to
work along with the family, not blame them
- Is willing to wage battle with managed care
(insurance) companies to
see to it that the child gets all the care he/she
needs. Is also
willing to speak with the school or come to IEP
meeting s to ensure the
proper educational modifications or programming
- Values
parental input, has a good rapport with the child. Ask your child
what they think of the doctor
Note:
Use basically the same method of finding a good doctor for a child
with bipolar that you would for just about anything
else.
Ideas for Parents to Improve Success at
School for
Children with Bipolar
There is a lot that you, as the parent can do to help your
child with
bipolar to be successful at school. Research has shown that parent
involvement and
communication are the most important factors for success - for all
children, but
especially for children with disabilities.
Bipolar parent tips for working with the
school
Prepare for
the IEP (Individual Education Program)
- Organize information
in a binder
- Rehearse the meeting
– know what your child needs and how to ask for it.
- Educate school staff
about the disorder and how it affects your child. Tell
them the things that work at home.
- Leave emotions at home
- Use Educational
Consultants if available, such as the ARC
- Independent Education
Evaluations
- Peer support advocates
- Education attorneys
Select
Match with a Good Teacher
- Flexible but clear
structure
- Emotionally sensitive
- Strengths focused
- Calm demeanor
Keep
Communication between Home and School Open
- Use
email or faxes to communicate assignments and upcoming work
to parents
- Open
communication is a key to a successful school plan
- Discuss
how you can reinforce what your child is working on in
school at home
- Agree
on when and how to contact parents when behavior becomes
unmanageable
- Develop a Crisis
Intervention plan for when child gets out of control,
may do something impulsive or dangerous
- Coordinate with School
Counselor for regular, end of day “debriefing”
and weekly sessions to help problem solve
School Education Labels for the Bipolar Child
These bipolar parent tips help you to understand what
"labels" or
special
education classes of eligibility your child with bipolar may
qualify under for
special education. To be eligible for special
education services under the
Individuals with Disability Education Act
of 2004 (IDEA 2004), a child
must meet the criteria under at least one
of these classes and have a need for special education and related
services. Bipolar Children are most often classified under:
- “Other Health Impairment”
(OHI): chronic or acute
health problem that
results in limited alertness, adversely affects educational performance.
- Specific Learning Disability (LD): skills
significantly weaker in
specific subject than what is expected on measured ability tests.
- Serious Emotionally Impaired (SED) (ED/EI): who
display an unexplained
inability to learn, or to build or maintain satisfactory interpersonal
relationships with peers or teachers. They display inappropriate types
of behaviors or feelings under normal circumstances, general pervasive
mood of unhappiness or depression and a tendency to develop physical
symptoms or fears associated with personal or school problems.
Modifications and Strategies
Here are some bipolar parent tips to clarify
some of the modifications at school that may help your child be more
successful.These are some school based modifications that can be
written into the Individual Education Program (IEP) and may help your
child with bipolar do better at school:
- Seated away
from classroom distractions, study carrel
- Safe place
outside of class to go on request
- Sit in
front row near teacher
- Avoid
arguments
- Schedule
breaks with physical activity (i.e. get a drink, run an errand)
- Set firm
boundaries with understandable consequences
- Set up
signal system with teacher that is private, but helps child
communicate if emotional intensity gets too high.
- Allow
student to finish tasks before moving on
- Give
warnings and prompts for activity
- Extra time
for testing and getting work done
- Decrease
assignments
- Assign
little or no homework
- Eliminate
work for concepts that are already mastered
- Use
manipulatives, hands on learning
- Permit
observation of the task before trying it
- Encourage
creativity
- Provide
social skills classes with peers
- One to one
problem solving
- Educate
peers about special needs through disability awareness
Things to Watch During the Teen Years
Bipolar parent tips for the TeensThe teen years are always a
difficult
time for anyone, but can be a dangerous time for
teens with bipolar
disorder. These are areas that all parents are
watching out for their
not-quite-yet-matured teens, but need extra vigilance (eyes
in the back of the head and x-ray vision) for
teens with
bipolar as the disorder makes them highly susceptible
to
these
problems.
Alcohol and Drugs
- High risk
of becoming addicted
- Suffer a
worse course of illness (more irritable and paranoid)
- More
serious reactions to affects of drugs
- Educate the
teen about the risks/dangers and the illness
Sexuality
- Episodes of hypersexuality where the drive is
much stronger
- Watch for
signals in sexually provocative dress/behavior or preoccupation
- Get blood
levels checked, medication levels may have dropped and or this
is medication non-compliance
- Keep home
from school until meds are stabilized
- Limit
attendance at dances/parties or other social functions
- Make sure
sexuality is not attempt to get attention/love because of
low self esteem.
- Educate and
seek to obtain birth control
Reckless Driving
- Establish a written contract for driving
privileges (take meds as prescribed, wear seat belts, drive
speed limit,
don’t drink and drive, meet curfews)
- Include
that child should not be passenger if
friend is drunk or using drugs, stipulate they should call to
be picked
up – parent will NOT ask questions
Curfews
- Bipolar
teens
need regular bedtimes so that irregularities in the sleep/wake
cycle do
not trigger the illness. Need to negotiate a balance between
social
life and getting to sleep at decent time of night.
Support Groups
Support groups are an invaluable part of treatment. They are
a good
source for information, tips and to meet other parents. Support groups
are a part of taking care of yourself first so that you are
able to
better care for your children. One of the best bipolar
parent tips is
to find a parent support group in your area and go!
Click the links below for information on how
to find
parent support groups in your area:
Find Parent Support Groups
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